In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.
The first miracle that Jesus ever did was change water into wine. Even though our Lord could have done that miracle anywhere, the place where He chose to do it was at a wedding. That, of course, shows us something about what God thinks of marriage. He loves it. He holds it in the highest regard, and He wants us to do the same thing too. As the author of Hebrews tells us in Hebrews 13, “Let marriage be held in honor among all.” So, how exactly do we do that? Well, that’s what I’d like to talk about in the morning’s sermon. Because Jesus honored marriage with His presence and very first miracle at a wedding at Cana in Galilee, let us consider together the different ways that God’s Word teaches us to honor marriage ourselves.
The first and most basic way that we do that is by upholding God’s definition of what marriage actually is. It’s hard to image a worse way to dishonor something than by trying to redefine it, or change it into something that it isn’t. If I gave my kids a brand-new Bible for Christmas and then they turned around and used its pages to start fires, instead of reading it, that wouldn’t be right. It would be a total misuse and abuse of the gift. And sadly, that’s what many people today do with God’s gift of marriage. They don’t use it in the way that God intended. In some cases, they even twist into something completely different than what God designed it to be.
The Bible tells us that God designed marriage to be the lifelong union between one man and woman. Jesus says in Mark chapter 10, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So, they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Any definition of marriage that doesn’t agree with that definition is no real marriage at all. It doesn’t matter what the government says. It doesn’t matter what the majority of people on the street say. What matters is what Jesus says. As Mary told to the servants in our Gospel reading today, “Do whatever He tells you.”
And Jesus tells us that marriage is between one man and one woman. That means that there’s no such thing as gay marriage. Even if two individuals say that they are committed to one another that doesn’t make what they’re doing okay. People can commit to sinful things all of the time. For example, two bank robbers can agree with one another to go and rob a bank. Well, so what? It’s still bad. And two men and two women can agree to live together as a couple even though that’s bad too. One time in the Bible God destroyed an entire city because the men of that place engaged in homosexual behavior. He reigned down fire and sulfur from heaven and even turned a woman into a pillar of salt simply because she looked back with longing eyes. Let that be a warning to all of us. This stuff is constantly being put in front of our faces on television shows and in movies. We should not be watching it. We need to tell our children that it’s wrong, and do our best to firmly but lovingly demonstrate to others that Christ doesn’t approve of any of it. That’s one way that we honor God’s gift of marriage.
Another way that we do it is by waiting until we get married to engage in the privileges of marriage. Again, Jesus says that a man leaves his father and mother, holds fast to his wife, and then the two become one flesh. The physical union of marital intimacy is supposed to take place after the public declaration and promise to live together in marriage. It has become very common in our time for couples to move in with each other and share the same home before they share their wedding vows. They test each other out as if they are buying a used car instead of preparing to have a partner for life. But individuals who cohabitate with one another are not getting ready for marriage. They are getting for divorce. They are training themselves to be able to leave the relationship at any time they want if that relationship no longer satisfies their desires. But do you know what the statistics say for how likely a marriage is to end between those who move in together first as opposed to those who wait? It goes up significantly.
And none that is to mention the spiritual consequences of doing it. The Bible says that those who live in unrepentant sexual sin will be judged for it. In the same verse that I read at the beginning of the sermon today from Hebrews 13 it goes on to say, “Let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” God’s judgment against those won’t stop living in sexual sin is that they won’t go to heaven when they die. That’s what Saint Paul writes in Galatians chapter 5. He says that “the sexually immoral will not inherit the kingdom of God.” Is it worth it to save few bucks by moving in with your boyfriend or girlfriend, only to lose out on eternal life? Yes, it might be embarrassing to admit that you were wrong and have to move back in with your parents, or get married a lot faster than you originally planned, but a little bit of embarrassment is nothing compared to a clean conscience. Having God’s blessing and approval in your life is infinitely more valuable than having anything else.
Along those same lines then we should also include in this category the sin of lust and for the sake of sensitive ears let’s call it “self-abuse.” It’s possible to commit adultery without ever being in the same room as someone else. Jesus says this exact thing in Matthew chapter five: “You have heard it said, ‘you shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” The widespread access to pornographic content and material has turned this sin into perhaps the greatest spiritual threat of our time. But married men and women who look at porn dishonor their spouse. And unmarried men and women who do it dishonor their future spouse. Other people are never objects for our own personal pleasure and enjoyment. They are God’s creatures, made in His own image and likeness, that He sent His Son Jesus to redeem and save. That’s what we should tell ourselves whenever we are tempted to look at something that we know we shouldn’t. We shouldn’t play with fire thinking that we won’t get burned. Instead, we should be like Joseph who ran away from Potiphar’s wife and even left his cloak behind in her hand. Part of what it means to honor marriage is to flee from sexual immorality and try our best to fight against it.
The next way we honor marriage, which also needs special attention in our time, is by staying married to our spouse and encouraging others to do the same. Besides telling us that marriage should be between one man and one woman, and that we should wait to get married before we sleep with someone, the Bible also tells us that marriage is supposed to be for life. Jesus says, “What God has joined together let not man separate.” The only two explicit reasons given for divorce in sacred Scripture are adultery and abandonment. And even in those instances the goal, whenever possible, is still reconciliation. This modern idea that falling out of love with someone, or no longer sharing the same life goals as they do, constitutes acceptable grounds for divorce is completely contradictory to God’s clear Word. And that’s not even to mention the issue of getting married again after the fact. Listen to what Jesus says about remarriage in Matthew chapter 19, “Whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” As hard as those words may be for us to hear, we need to take them seriously instead of immediately trying to find ways that they don’t apply to us. Our goal as Christian people should never be to try and get away with as much as possible, but to follow God’s Word as closely as possible. And God wants couples to stay married. What He has joined together, He wants no one to put asunder.
One of the reasons why the Bible teaches us to take things like divorce so seriously, and do everything that we possibly can to prevent it from happening, is because it almost never just affects the two people who did it. It almost always has an impact on other people too. Few things are as hard on children as when a husband and wife separate from one other and stop living in the same home. Yes, there are legitimate instances where this might be necessary, especially when people’s lives are in danger, but that doesn’t mean that the situation is ever desirable or ideal. In Malachi chapter 2, God Himself tells us how He feels about divorce. He says that He hates it. Then He says right after that that the reason why is because He wants godly offspring. Our Father in heaven knows that what’s best for children is to have a stable home with a caring mother and father who are devoted to one another and to their wedding vows. When that doesn’t happen, it makes Him sad. It should make us sad too. It should cause us to plead with the Lord for mercy and that He would have compassion on all those who are struggling in their marriage.
These are just a few of the ways that God’s Word teaches us to honor marriage. There a lot more of them that we could talk about, but these are some of the most basic one’s that we learn from the Bible. When Jesus turned water into wine at Cana in Galilee, He did more than just perform a miracle. He showed us what God thinks about the lifelong union between one man and one woman. He loves it. He holds it in the highest regard. And He wants us to do the same thing too.
Part of what it means to be a Christian is to try and do what God’s Word tells us to do. It means following after His laws and honoring what He gives us to honor. And when we don’t do that, or fail to do it in the way that we should, we need to stop and repent. The Bible says that, “if we confess our sins, God is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” That’s true for every sin, even for the sins against marriage. If we quit doing them, and ask God to forgive us for them, He promises that He will. He says that He will wash us clean and make us new as if we’d never done those things to begin with.
Yes, Jesus’ first miracle shows us what God thinks about marriage, but even more than that its shows us what He thinks about our sins. He wants us to have forgiveness for them. Christ didn’t just come down from heaven to encourage us to be faithful towards each other in our marriage vows, He came down from heaven to prove that He is faithful towards us in His. As we read in our Epistle lesson today from Ephesians chapter 5, marriage is a picture of the love that Christ has for the Church. Jesus is the Bridegroom and we are His Bride. And what does Saint Paul say that Jesus does for His Bride? He writes, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her, that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, so that He might present the Church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.”
We learn in our Gospel text that Jesus changed water into wine by using the vessels for the Jewish rites of purification. There were six stone jars, each holding 20 to 30 gallons. In a way, that symbolized man’s attempts to purify himself. Six is the number of days of mankind’s creation. It’s one short of seven, the perfect number of God. We can’t make ourselves clean. We can’t fix what we’ve broken before the Lord. We can’t wash away our sins. But Jesus can. And when He turned water into wine, He showed us that that’s exactly what He came to do.
Jesus turned water into wine to remind us of the abundant forgiveness that He comes to bring His church. It was a miracle of excess, because there is no sin which He did not die for and no transgressing that He is unwilling to forgive. Jesus turned water into wine to remind us of our Baptism, and the washing of regeneration and renewal that we get there which makes us clean and pure. And Jesus turned water into wine to remind us of His holy Supper, the bread and the wine that we eat and drink, which is His true Body and Blood, given and shed for our forgiveness. Christ is our Bridegroom and we are His Bride. He died for us, and He provides for us, so that we can enter into the eternal wedding feast of heaven.
So, honor marriage according to His design, and thank God that He honors His marriage to you by promising to never leave you or forsake you. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.